I was reading the book “How We Love” by Milan and Kay Yerkovich when I came across a list of what they call Soul Words. I have come across many lists over the years that help people identify their feelings and I find them extremely useful for men who tend to categorize all of their feelings into one of two words angry, or frustrated. I recommend giving this list to the person your are having a courageous conversation with so they can better identify what is going on inside their soul. In my article From Zero to Hero I explain four elements of connecting emotinally with another person and this list of words will be helpful when you come to the second element of helping a person identify and clarify their fears, frustrations and feelings.

From Zero to Hero

Happy

Cheerful, delighted, elated, encouraged, glad, gratified, joyful, lighthearted, overjoyed, pleased, relieved, satisfied, thrilled, secure.

LOVING

Affectionate, cozy, passionate, romantic, sexy, warm, tender, responsive, thankful, appreciative, refreshed, pleased

HIGH ENERGY

Energetic, enthusiastic, excited, playful, rejuvenated, talkative, pumped, motivated, driven, determined, obsessed’

AMAZED

Stunned, surprised, shocked, jolted

ANXIOUS

Uneasy, embarrassed, frustrated, nauseated, ashamed, nervous, restless, worried, stressed

CONFIDENT

Positive, secure, self-assured, assertive

PEACEFUL

At ease, calm, comforted, cool, relaxed, serene

AFRAID

Scared, anxious, apprehensive, boxed in, burdened, confused, distressed, fearful, frightened, guarded, hard pressed, overwhelmed, panicky, paralyzed, tense, terrified, worried, insecure

TRAUMATIZED

Shocked, disturbed, injured, damaged

ANGRY

Annoyed, controlled, manipulated, furious, grouchy, grumpy, irritated, provoked, frustrated

LOW ENERGY

Beaten down, exhausted, tired, weak, listless, depressed, detached, withdrawn, indifferent, apathetic

ALONE

Avoidant, lonely, abandoned, deserted, forlorn, isolated, cut off, detached

SAD

Unhappy, crushed, dejected, depressed, desperate, despondent, grieved, heartbroken, heavy, weepy

BETRAYED

Deceived, fooled, duped, tricked

CONFUSED

Baffled, perplexed, mystified, bewildered

ASHAMED

Guilty, mortified, humiliated, embarrassed, exposed

From the book How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich

Posted by Chris Hogan on Wednesday, August 11, 2010 at 16:57 PM